Daniel Im

Pastor + Author

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Money, Conflict, and Marriage

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A few days ago, my wife and I launched a weekly FB Live show called After Hours with Daniel and Christina Im!! It is an opportunity to connect, to ask your parenting and marriage questions, and to be reminded weekly that we are in this marriage/parenting marathon together! 

This week, we discuss:

  • How knowing your money personality can save you and your spouse a lot of heartache, tears, and frustration
  • How the Enneagram gives you the language to both express how you feel and understand how your spouse is feeling during a conflict
  • And we answer a listener’s question: “What advice do you have for online/long distance dating?”

Watch this inaugural episode, “Money, Conflict, and Marriage,” on our brand new YouTube Channel! (and please subscribe too, since we’re just getting started 😅)

If you want to join us live, be sure to head on over to our Facebook page every Tuesday at 9 PM MT. 

https://youtu.be/nA6c0VPgBu0

The WHY Behind Your Decisions

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Have you ever thought through the WHY behind your decisions?

In other words, why do you make the decisions you do? For example,

  • If you have a Saturday open on your schedule, do you play a round of golf with your buddies, or go to the swimming pool with your children?
  • If a meeting is cancelled, do you catch up with your email? Check social media? Or. read the news or a book?
  • When the kids go to bed, do you watch Netflix? Read a book? Work on a project? Or, talk with a friend or your spouse?

These decisions are often subconscious—they’re underneath the surface. We make them without thinking. They are our habits, our defaults, our normals, or our vices.

Many of our decisions are often subconscious—they’re underneath the surface.

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Whether you realize it or not, many of these kinds of decisions have already been made for you based on your values or principles. These are the very elements that set the status quo for us.

If this is true, wouldn’t it be worth your time to do a little introspection and uncover the why behind your decisions? Your values and principles?

A while back, I came across Amazon’s leadership principles. I like how they describe them,

Our Leadership Principles aren’t inspirational wall hanging. These Principles work hard, just like we do. Amazonians use them, every day, whether they’re discussing ideas for new projects, deciding on the best solution for a customer’s problem, or interviewing candidates.

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A New Chapter and Season

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Once Christina and I had Victoria, our first child, the way we went about life and ministry changed dramatically.

Instead of being on the front lines doing ministry together, Christina took a back seat. Not a back seat in regards to importance, but a back seat in regards to visibility and role.

So over the last year, a regular conversation that we would have while praying and Sabbathing together had been, “What are you going to do when the kids all go to school?”

“Are you going to go back to social work? To counseling? Back to school? Or start something new?”

While we still don’t have that fully figured out (and I think that’s okay), there is one thing that we’ve decided to do…and do together.

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